Recently, I’ve been stumbling more and more upon the name Leslie Ludy. Leslie Ludy is a Christian author trying to set girls for the right direction to act more lady-like, discover Christ in them selves and so on and so forth. As cute as this all sounds, while reading her book Answering the Guy Questions I was shocked at how sexist and irrational this all is. Disclaimer: We at People For Fashion are not discriminating against any groups, this is simply an observation made that should be brought to other’s attention.
I think we’ve all noticed how as fashion progresses, so does the lack of clothing. But it always has, if we started with wearing full-gown togas, every century afterwards started to take more liberties with fashion. Corsets in the 17th century were tightened to suffocation and were made pretty low-cut to accent the feminine figure. And in years to follow it only became worse, with the occasional bringing back like say in the yearly 20th century or during the whole hippie movement. I’m not sure how much more openly one can possibly dress after this generation, because we are practically nude. Booty shorts, sheer low cut shirts with a bandeau isn’t much clothing.
Modesty at its prime
What most amazed me when my friend first told me about Answering the Guy Questions was that Ludy believes in modest dressing, and that women shouldn’t show any part of their body that is for her future husband’s eyes only to see. Which immediately crosses out daisy dukes and bandeau/tank tops of today. She also claims that dressing modestly is to not show curves, as that is just as sensual, if not more sensual than just showing skin. Then she said something along the lines of young women dress the way they do today because society makes it seem that if they aren’t Victoria’s Secret Angels they won’t be noticed by guys and its society’s fault for making young guys so sex-crazed. The cherry on top seemed to me that she also claimed that wearing a bikini to the pool or beach is most wrong because why show so much skin to absolute strangers, since that’s a part of the female body only her husband can see. I mean, what level of sexism is this? We as women don’t belong to our husbands! That makes it sound as if he bought her as a sex slave to see these sensual parts of her body. If I want to wear practically nothing, I damn straight will and its not necessarily for the attention of men. Women don’t dress for guys, they dress to impress other women, so guys, get over yourselves.
A woman should have the right to dress however she wants to, regardless of who’s eyes she’ll be seen by. Its a shame that feminists fought so hard for our equality, and BS like this is being published today, saying a woman must dress to honor her future husband. But you think this is all the inequality in the book? Wait, there’s more.
-“Every young girl (until she is brainwashed by our culture’s feminist agenda) dreams of a heroic knight who will slay the evil dragon on her behalf and carry her away to his castle” (Ludy 25). So how was this feminist agenda born then? If feminism was started by women and EVERY girl dreams of being rescued away by her knight in shining armor, did this feminist idea just get planted by some outside source? No, believe it or not, there are women out there who want to slay their own dragon, rather than wait for someone else to do it. I don’t know if that’s anyone’s actual fault, it might just be women being tired of having to rely on their husband. And more power to you, we’ve come too far with feminism to now be starting to make our way back under the rock.
-“Our marriages languish because men aren’t standing up and actually being men” (Ludy 29). Or your marriages are languishing because love became more casual nowadays. Its accepted to sleep with strangers, or have a friends with benefits relationship. Not that that is any good, but you can’t say its just the men’s fault. There’s plenty to do with women as well. Just admit that finding the love of your life isn’t an easy task and may even take a few tries to get it right. No one wants to take them, everyone wants to get it right on the first try, but like many things in life, not everyone gets lucky on the first round. Try, try again.
-“It’s every woman’s dream to be heroically protected and defended by a strong and noble man” (Ludy 38). What is with this woman’s generalizing? How is it so hard to see that some women don’t want other’s doing the work for them, I’ve met lots of great women along my life who’ve faced difficult times like being widowed or divorced or simply not taken as a wife and had their own kids who did all the work on their own. Yes, it was difficult but they protected themselves and their children without relying on someone else. In fact, it is these women who fight bravely while alone that I applaud rather than the ones who can’t live a year without being in a relationship. Fairy tales were meant to be in books and there’s no good trying to recreate them in life. If they came true, we’d call them biographies.
-“For a guy to be the warrior-poet God intends him to be, he must be set free to be a man [we must be swift as a coursing river, with all the strength of a great typhoon, with all the force of a raging fire, mysterious as the dark side of the moon!!! Sorry, I couldn’t help myself]. In a marriage that means he’s allowed to be the leader” (Ludy 63). Disregarding my awesome breaking into song, why should he be the leader? What has he done that proves him to be more capable? Of course, I don’t necessarily want a wimp of a husband, but I don’t want him to say “You harlot, back to the kitchen”. Seriously, its the 21st century, I have the right to make decisions for myself and not nod my head like a sheep when my husband speaks to me. We’re supposed to be equals, as it turns out, women are just as intellectual and able as men to work and make decisions. I don’t understand what other right he has besides being my husband that allows him to speak and decide on my behalf, I am not a child, and reason just as well as him.
There were other smaller things that bothered me in this book, but these took the cake. The one thing I must say is that perhaps this book wasn’t meant for girls like me, who have other visions for their life. This is the set-apart girl’s guide to relating to the opposite sex, and I’ll assume by set-apart they mean hard-core Christian, which sure I’m Christian but clearly not to this extent.
If any of you are interested in hearing more about why women are less worthy than men and how gays ruin the male population, you can look up Answering the Guy Questions by Leslie Ludy.
Stay fashionable, my darlings.
P.S. Once again, this isn’t to say Christians are worse, in fact, they are a religion quite equal and I do think this is just an exception.